How to recognise anxiety and respond to it

Anxiety is a normal human emotion. But having too much anxiety can cause issues. Here are some practical tips to spot, manage and get support with anxiety.

This advice applies to: England and Wales

Breathing exercises

Finger breathing

A practitioner from Healthy Minds Lincolnshire talks you through finger breathing, a quick way for a young person to calm themselves when they are feeling particularly worried or anxious.

Watch the video tutorial

Box breathing

A Healthy Minds Practitioner talks you through the square breathing technique, which can help young people reduce physical feelings of stress and worry.

Watch the video tutorial

YoungMinds is a national charity offering mental health support and advice for young people and parents. Their Parents Helpline is open Monday to Friday, 9:30am to 4pm. Call them on 0808 802 5544. Or you can chat to them online.

The Parent Talk website has a host of information on understanding your child’s emotions and behaviour, including anxiety.

Shout is a free, confidential, 24/7 text messaging service for anyone in the UK who needs support. If you are struggling to cope, talk to their trained Shout Volunteers. To start a conversation, text the word ‘Shout’ to 85258.

 

Read books about anxiety

Reading about emotions can help children develop the language to talk about how they are feeling. There are lots of books on feelings and anxiety for children and young people.

We recommend The Huge Bag of Worries by Virginia Ironside, and Hey Warrior by Karen Young to read with children to help them understand anxiety better.

Find more useful books for children about anxiety from our partners at the BookTrust.


You may find it helpful to talk to someone like you. Our Someone like Me service will match you with another kinship carer, who is specially trained to offer emotional support.  You can talk about any issues or difficulties you’re facing – and how you’re feeling. Our volunteers will listen, without judgement, offer understanding and provide emotional support.