Understanding and managing stress

Stress is a common experience for kinship carers, who often face unique challenges in caring for children who have been through difficult experiences. Here is how to recognise the signs of stress and some practical tips for managing it effectively.

This advice applies to: England and Wales

Kinship carers are family or friends who step up to care for a child when their parents are not able to, often during an unexpected crisis.

And in that moment, a commitment is made. To bring love and stability to a child, even as you navigate the stresses that can come with caregiving. 

Common causes of stress for kinship carers

Many kinship children have experienced significant trauma, including abuse, neglect, or loss of a parent. Caring for a child significantly affected by trauma can be emotionally demanding and stressful.

Kinship carers often face financial strain, especially if they have to give up work or reduce their hours to care for a child.

Navigating the legal system, dealing with social services, and managing paperwork can be overwhelming and confusing.

Many kinship carers feel isolated and unsupported, particularly if they do not have access to adequate resources or peer support groups.

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Speak to someone like you

Want to talk to someone who understands what you’re experiencing as a kinship carer? Our specially trained kinship carer volunteers are here to listen through our free Someone Like Me service.

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Peer support groups

Our peer support groups will help you get the support you need and connect with other kinship carers in your local area.

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Contact the Kinship advice team

Find out more about our advice service, how they can help, and how to get in touch with them.

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Carers UK provides advice and support for carers, including tips for managing stress and accessing resources. They also offer a helpline for practical and emotional support.

Rethink Mental Illness offers support for those dealing with mental health issues, including stress. They provide resources and local support groups to help you cope.

Samaritans is a 24/7 helpline that offers confidential support to anyone feeling distressed or overwhelmed. You can call them any time on 116 123 to talk about what is on your mind.

YoungMinds Parents Helpline – for advice on child mental health issues

NSPCC Helpline – for concerns about child safety and wellbeing

Shout Text Service – 24/7 support via text by messaging “Shout” to 85258

Childline – for children and young people to talk about any difficulties they may be facing