Supporting children and young people with trauma

Kinship carers are family or friends who step up to care for a child when their parents aren’t able to. Often during an unexpected crisis.

And in that moment a commitment is made. To bring love and hope to a child who has experienced trauma, no matter what.

Understanding trauma

Trauma can occur when we encounter something that is very stressful, frightening or distressing. Trauma can be the result of a single incident, such as a loved one dying suddenly, or from prolonged, repeated experiences over time, such as a parent who has a substance abuse issue.

Because everyone is unique, trauma affects people in different ways. Children, however, are particularly impacted by trauma because they are still developing their emotional and psychological resilience.

Understanding Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)

Types of trauma experienced in childhood are known as Adverse Childhood Experiences or ACEs. The more ACEs a child experiences, the higher the likelihood of physical and mental health issues. Examples of experiences that could result in childhood trauma are:

• being exposed to violence, either as a witness or a victim
• the death of a loved one or prolonged separation from family
• being involved in, or witnessing, a serious accident or life-threatening situation
• experiencing physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, and neglect
• problems at home, such as divorce, domestic violence, or substance abuse

How to recognise trauma in children

Trauma can present itself in different ways, depending on the child’s age. It can affect how they form relationships and friendships. Being able to spot the potential signs of trauma means that you can support the child and get support yourself.

Emotional and psychological symptoms

Can include:

• constantly worrying, feeling anxious and being fearful about safety
• a persistent sadness and a lack of interest in activities (depression)
• unexplained anger, irritability, and frustration
• feelings of self-blame, shame, guilt, and unworthiness
• difficulty concentrating, focusing, and remembering details
• going back to earlier developmental stages (for example, bedwetting, thumb sucking, being clingy)

Physical symptoms

Can include:

• always feeling tired and lacking energy
• trouble sleeping (insomnia) or frequent nightmares
• changes in eating habits, such as overeating or loss of appetite
• unexplained physical aches and pains
• being overly alert and easily startled

Types of trauma

There are many different types of trauma. Below are some of the types of trauma that the child, or children, you care for may be experiencing.

Early childhood trauma

Early childhood trauma refers to traumatic experiences that children aged 0 to 6 may go through. Because babies and young children are generally unable to verbalise their reaction to a traumatic event, many people assume that they haven’t been affected by it.  But children are particularly vulnerable to trauma due to their developing brains and emotional systems.

Childhood trauma can have lasting effects, particularly if the child didn’t receive support to cope with it at the time or if the trauma was prolonged, such as experiencing abuse or neglect.

Generational or intergenerational trauma

This is a type of trauma that is passed down through generations within a family, culture, or group. A parent, or carer, who is experiencing trauma from the past can influence the mental health of the children in their care. Generational or intergenerational trauma shapes the environment in which a child is raised.

Secondary trauma

Secondary trauma is indirect exposure to trauma through close contact with someone who has experienced a traumatic event. For example, a child is not being abused directly, but they are often a witness to the domestic abuse of their mother.

How to support children and young people with trauma

Understanding and addressing trauma is essential for healing and recovery. With the right support and resources, children in kinship care can find healthier ways to cope and rebuild their lives.

Use the PACE model

PACE stands for Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, Empathy. The PACE model is particularly helpful for younger children as it is based on how parents connect with infants. It’s a way of thinking, feeling, communicating and behaving that aims to make the child feel safe. It focuses on the whole child, not just the behaviour. It helps children feel more secure with adults and helps them to reflect upon themselves, their thoughts, feelings and behaviour.

Find out more about how to use the PACE model.

Consider counselling

Your child may benefit from therapy or counselling with a mental health professional. Depending on the age of your child, you may wish to talk to them about considering support from a professional. You may wish to speak with your GP or contact your local Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS) about getting support.

Read more about CAMHS on YoungMinds website.

Adoption and special guardianship support fund

Some kinship carers can get financial support from the adoption and special guardianship support fund for essential therapeutic services. This could be creative therapies, life story work, family therapy and therapeutic short breaks. Find out more about the adoption and special guardianship support fund in our guide.

Establish routines

Regular routines can provide a sense of normalcy and control. This will also help your child to feel safe and secure.

Organise healthy activities

There are lots of activities that promote wellbeing, such as exercise or hobbies. But everyone is unique, so it is important to find an activity that works for your child and that they find fun and enjoyable.

Organisations that can help